About InQuisitiEve

A lot of communication happens in the margins where nuance lives. What people say has meaning beyond what's on the surface, and as a young child who needed to read the room to avoid getting in trouble, I learned very quickly and deeply how to read from the margins. But there is a cost of learning to read people that way during developmental years: you develop a very negative view of the world. You take things personal that were never yours to keep because that is what children do and because you don't have a point of reference to show you otherwise; you take that childlike view into adulthood.

My first breakthrough into mature processing of human behavior happened at 22 when I started community college. My teacher, a very intelligent, gentle, and well-read woman, introduced me to a genre that connected deeply to the human condition: literary fiction, articles, and memoirs. She introduced me to writers like James Baldwin and Maya Angelou, which led me to my all-time favorite writer: Toni Morrison, and my all-time favorite playwright, Lorraine Hansberry, and her play "A Raisin in the Sun." To this day, I still see a modern-day version of Walter Lee in black men, which tells me that trauma runs deep across families and generations.

With each assignment she gave us, I learned more about myself and the human condition. Writing became my process for understanding the world. Through writing, I was able to dissect human behavior and gain an understanding of why we do the things we do. Understanding the why helped me not to personalize every slight I felt; it also encouraged me to figure out who I was because not knowing fed my distress. We live in a world where, on the surface, everything looks bad, and if we are processing it in a negative light, we are not living a truly happy life. Seeing all of the bad in the world without seeing its connection to the good or evolution is a hard life to live. It was through this process that I found compassion for the people who react in counterproductive or mean ways; we are all just trying to survive our trauma, albeit our own or inherited. And that is worth writing about so that generations to come have a compassionate view to weigh our inherent negativity lens against.

InQuisitiEve is where my given name and my natural curiosity become one, a space dedicated to exploring how our personal struggles shape every facet of our lives. If you are the person who is often pondering or questioning why things happen, you have found your place. Articles in this space not only verify that you are not alone in your experience but also offer an alternative lens from which to view the world. InQuisitiEve is a space that asks better questions so people can find clearer answers.

About the Author

I have spent 25 years working in education, contributing to student success through employment and experiential learning initiatives. I hold a BS in Behavioral Science from Wilmington University and an MA in Strategic Communication from the University of Delaware, where I currently lead an experiential learning program that sits at the intersection of human behavior, systems thinking, and the belief that experience is our greatest teacher.

InQuisitiEve is the extension of that work into the written word, sharing insight for personal development. I am not a therapist or a clinician. I am someone who has spent fifteen years doing the hard work of understanding why people do what they do. The clinical language you'll encounter here comes from the reading and research I do on my own time because naming a thing is the first step toward understanding it. I share what I find through personal anecdotes and stories, learning alongside you, one pattern at a time.